Between snack requests, screen-time negotiations and meltdowns that could rival Olympic events, life in a neurodiverse household can feel like herding cats… while juggling.
I’ve tried a hundred hacks, but these four strategies have stuck. They keep my kid nourished, engaged and (mostly) calm and give me just enough breathing room to remember who I am outside of “mum.”
Tip 1: The “Snack-Station” Hack
Designate a low kitchen drawer/or tubs in the fridge as the snack station.
Fill it with pre-approved healthy finger foods carrot sticks, cheese cubes, fruit slices.
My child can help themselves without delay or debate, and I can sneak a guilt-free cup of tea while they munch.
Tip 2: Screen-Time Sandwich
Set a clear rule: screen time goes between a burst of physical activity and a quiet, calming task.
So before the iPad/computer comes out, we do a quick dance party or hallway hopscotch, then after, we settle with colouring or a simple puzzle.
That buffer on each side prevents the overstimulation crash that leaves everyone cranky.
Tip 3: Mum’s “Pocket of Peace”
I keep a tiny lavender sachet or a smooth crystal heart in my pocket.
When tension spikes, someone’s screaming at the TV, I’m late for a call I discreetly press my fingers to the sachet or crystal.
Those micro-moments of sensory grounding centre me instantly.
Tip 4: Evening Wind-Down Playlist
At 7 pm sharp, we hit play on a curated playlist of soft instrumentals or soothing nature sounds.
It’s our non-negotiable cue to wrap up screen time, dim the lights and shift into evening mode. Even reluctant teens respect it, there’s something magical about a shared routine.
And here’s my own mini exercise: every hour I stand, reach for the sky, bend to touch my toes, roll my shoulders.
Ten seconds keeps the tension at bay and reminds me to show my kid that movement can be its own reset.
Structure beats rigidity every time. With a few smart tweaks, you’ll serve up calm alongside those carrot sticks and find a sliver of space to sip real tea in peace.
